无性别卫生间:我们的‘安全区’被夺走了吗?

在遇到歧视、骚扰和针对胸部和阴道的攻击时,他们瞄准的是你的身体。
Belize, Central America

Story by Robin Schaffer. Translated by Lina Bell
Published on April 21, 2023.

This story is also available in GB it



警告:本文中包含针对女性的性暴力描写。

某一天我去大学楼里的卫生间时,发现门上的标志从“男”和“女”换成了“性别中立”和“性别中立(含小便池)”。这种变化并不是只在英国发生。最近几年,许多国家【1】都在设置无性别卫生间和性别中立卫生间。跨性别人群不会认同自己的性别是“男性”或者“女性”,因此,为了对抗骚扰,跨性别社群是推动上述改变的主要力量。

起初,这种变化不会打扰到我。其实我很支持这种改变。但是有一天我去卫生间里找卫生棉条时,一个男人正站在那里洗手。我感觉很紧张,回忆起了我12岁时在伯利兹遇到的一次卫生间尴尬事件。我不想在有男性的卫生间里拿出月经用品,这种失去安全区的感觉让我很不舒服。

然而,对于这种问题,有些人却告诉我“发展中国家的问题不会发生在英国的”。 可能我过度警惕了,在我的家乡,我很小的时候就学会了分辨他人的攻击行为,那时候我甚至还没有到穿着白色校服会被人吹口哨的年纪。我需要一个安全区,也许这个要求在英国是有点不合理了,这里毕竟是曾经的庞大帝国【2】遗留下来的小角落。但是骚扰行为依然很严重,这种为了社会性别无视生理性别的趋势让我感到很危险【3】

在伯利兹,我从来没有想过社会性别和生理性别可以区分开来。经过社会观念的长期强调和巩固,社会性别和生理性别一直紧密联系在一起。生活中处处是男/女的二元性别:比如在活动分小组,划分卫生间,和上性教育课程的时候。教生活技能的时候,女生学习缝纫,男生学习木工。我们穿的制服也是不一样的。
对于女生来讲,人们总是很注重她的纯洁。而对于男生,人们则倾向于鼓励他产生男子气概。人们常用一些生理因素来解读很多类似的性别观念。比如说,女性会怀孕,而且更容易受到某些伤害。而如果男性不够坚强,他们也无法保护自己和家人。
在我的成长过程中,我很自然地接受着这些性别观念,因为没发生过什么和我的世界观产生冲突的事。后来,七年之前我搬离了伯利兹,然后我对社会性别和生理性别的观念受到了一些冲击。
我知道伯利兹有个女生,她被一个很受欢迎的同学下药迷奸了。但是她选择责备自己,怪自己为什么会遭遇这种事,为什么看起来很容易得手,为什么喝了那杯饮料,为什么穿了当时那件衣服,然后她将此事深埋心底,在接下来的几周里还微笑着面对强奸犯,以免自己显得太过粗鲁。她没有报警。我也知道有个女性在公众场合被强奸了,但是她的家人说这都怪她穿超短裙出去,她也没有报警。
是的,这正是在伯利兹发生的事。但这并不仅是“发展中国家”的问题。这是全世界女性共同面对的问题【4】。我不能理解人们怎么能忽视生理上的区别,因为在遇到歧视、骚扰和针对胸部和阴道的攻击时,他们瞄准的是你的身体。
我认为我们应当对诸如设立性别中立厕所的规定更谨慎些。我们也应当承认,很不幸的是,对于很多女性来说,女卫生间依然是一个不可或缺的安全区。


Footnotes

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unisex_public_toilet

[2] 伯利兹在1862-1964年间是英国的殖民地,后来在1981年独立。

[3] 生理性别指的是以生殖器官的属性来区分的男女二元性别,社会性别指的是根据生理性别在社会行为中表现出的角色和性格。

[4] https://www.one.org/us/blog/7-barriers-to-girls-education-you-need-to-know/ 


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Robin Schaffer

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Hi there, I'm Robin Schaffer, an MSc Education graduate who has now returned to her home country Belize to work as Program Development and Communications Coordinator at the Ministry of Human Development.

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