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难道是我们的错?

作为一名女性,‘被骚扰’是一件很难避免的事。在这些瞬间,你很难知道应该如何作出反应。难堪和羞耻所带来的痛感最为强烈。
Netherlands, Western Europe

Story by Nika. Translated by Gisele Li
Published on June 18, 2021.

This story is also available in GB



内容警告这篇故事提及了性骚扰/性侵的相关内容,可能会使部分读者感到不适。

我并不得我是一个女者,事上,我所有的些所都感到慎, 并且认为可以从两个方面来审视:因候其难评判某些评论应该被当成称赞还是被当成是带有歧视色彩的言论。作为一个不停搜寻人们之间如何达到相互理解的人,我觉得我们所有人在评判他人的言论,行为以及凝视之前,都需要做到一定程度的宽容。但是,总有那么一些时候,某些人的行为所带来的那些细小但是令人不愉快的回忆实在是令人无法容忍。

着不去回想, 但是每每想到都会我想把沙子里。什么呢?因为这些回生在公共合,周遭的人群明明看了一切生的事却无于衷。曾的我是一个胆小的女孩,从来不会大喊大叫,也从来不会站起来直接走人。这些人看着我的眼神仿佛我才是那个做错事了的人,而这竟然全是因为我没有试着保护自己。

接下来我会叙述两件过往所发生的事,它们都发生在我在荷兰上学的期间。第一起事件是在夜里发生的:当时我跟我的一个女生朋友穿着短裙走在从派对回家的路上。正当我们走在一条比较安静的路上时,我突然发现我的身旁出现了一个黑影。我朝旁边看去,我看到一个穿着深色卫衣的男人,他的身上有着一股十分强烈的大麻味。光是从他的表情,我都能感受到他释放出的恶意 。还没等我反应过来,他已经掀起了我的裙子并抓住了我,我整个人都愣住了。但是我的高个子朋友十分冷静然后开始大叫了起来。幸运的是,那个男的并没有预料到我朋友会有这种反应,于是逃走了。我们慌忙地离开,最终平安回到了家。这件事并没有给我带来很久的冲击因为它至少平安无事地画上了个句号。但我回想起来,如果我当时是独身一人,我并不觉得我会有勇气保护自己,我甚至无法想象在当下那个情形会发生什么。

起第二起事件,我其内心有些疑。当我正在从学校回家的火上,整节车厢挤满了人,我的座位正好道。正当我坐着的时候,一个男人在我面前站住了。每当我抬起头,我的脸都会正好对着他的裆部。突然,他开始作出一些令人费解的动作。起初我甚至不敢相信,于是我偷偷用余光来观察我的怀疑是不是真的,但我只能看见其他乘客惊恐的眼神。他正试图在我的面前自慰,我再次愣住了。离火车到站的时间明明只有几秒钟,但对我来说像几个小时一样漫长。我站了起来,像一个罪犯一样溜到了街上。这就是曾经的我,一个既愚蠢又胆小的女孩!

似的事情生在你身上,你通常很到你应该如何作出反。我真心的希望我周的人可以做点什么,就像我朋友那晚做的一。那堪且羞耻的感一直徘徊在我的记忆中。噤声和无只会让这时间继续发生。

最后我想感那晚帮助我的朋友,她很勇敢。我希望所有性骚扰事件的旁者都可以像我朋友一,站出来,喊出来。


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This story is published under a pseudonym due to the sensitive content shared. The fact that she cannot share her name shows how difficult and embarrassing harassment can be. In reading the story, you may reflect on Nika’s call to stand up to harassment and make public spaces safe for everyone.

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